Moments in life.....................

Moments in Life

There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!

When the door of happiness closes, another opens; but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us.

Don’t go for looks; they can deceive, don’t go for wealth; even that fades away.  Go for someone who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.  Find the one that makes your heart smile.

Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.  Live your life so at the end, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

There has never been another you in the history of the world, and there never will be.  You are uniquely designed and gifted, with a core purpose for being in the world.  That was God’s plan, and for you to reject that and say, “I am not good enough” is not ok.

Just sending you some of my favorite sayings that have helped me change my attitude now and again.  Hope you enjoy.   

THERE IS A SOLUTION.....

Back to our basic question: Do you have a problem? Do you deal with something that you’ve tried everything you can think of to solve, and yet it continues and even gets worse? If you have a problem that fits this description, then this course is for you. If you don’t, then you’re probably not ready—yet. That’s the only requirement for being part of this course—that you have a problem that you can’t whip, and you’re ready to admit it.

THERE IS A SOLUTION

Don’t be afraid to admit that you can’t beat this problem on your own. That is the first step to overcoming it. There is a solution, I promise you. And this solution will not solve just the original problem that brought you here but all problems you apply it to.

He Did Deliver Me From Bondage, Colleen C. Harrison, Windhaven Publishing, p 4

Boundaries in Marriage,......

“When we neglect setting boundaries with ourselves and focus instead on setting boundaries with those we think sorely need limits, we have limited our own spiritual growth.  As in any growth process, spiritual growth proceeds to the level that we invest in it.  When we only invest in changing someone else, they get the benefit of our efforts, but the important work we have to do has been neglected….

“If your spouse is…angry, irresponsible, inattentive, and self-centered, you will not grow if you continue to react to his sins. This is not seeking first God’s kingdom and righteousness (Matt. 6:33); it is seeking satisfaction from another person (codependency.)

“We must become more deeply concerned about our own issues than our spouse’s.  We cannot overstate the importance of this idea.  One of the most frightening facts in existence is that God will someday call us to account for our lives here on earth: ‘For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive what is due him for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad’ (2 Cor 5:10).  At that meeting we will not be able to blame, hide behind, or deflect to the sins and problems of our spouse.  It will be a one-on-one conversation with God.

“Boundaries with yourself are a much bigger issue than boundaries in you marriage.  In the end, while we are only partly responsible for growing our marriages, we are completely responsible to God for developing our very souls.  You are responsible for half of you marriage and all of your soul. Boundaries on yourself are between you and God.”

Boundaries in Marriage,  Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, p65-66

Caring a Glass of Water..........FHE

A young lady confidently walked around the room while explaining stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone was sure she was going to ask the ultimate question: 'Half empty or half full?' However, she fooled them all.

"How heavy is this glass of water?" she inquired with a smile.

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. To 20 oz.

She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance. In each case it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."

She continued, "That's the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on."

"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden -- holding stress longer and better each time. So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them through the evening and into the night.... Pick them up tomorrow.

"Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a moment. Relax; pick them up later after you've rested. Life is short. Enjoy it and the now 'supposed' stress that you've conquered!"

Sent to us by Derrick P.

To My Grandchildren.......

Years ago a friend of mine spoke of his grandmother. She had lived a full life, always faithful to the Lord and to His Church. Yet one of her grandsons chose a life of crime. He was finally sentenced to prison. My friend recalled that his grandmother, as she drove along a highway to visit her grandson in prison, had tears in her eyes as she prayed with anguish, “I’ve tried to live a good life. Why, why do I have this tragedy of a grandson who seems to have destroyed his life?”

The answer came to her mind in these words: “I gave him to you because I knew you could and would love him no matter what he did.”

To My Grandchildren, Pres., Henry B. Eyring, Ensign, Nov., 2013

How Do I Help.......

How do I help?

(One Day at a Time)

Of course I am obligated, by compassion and a common humanity, to help others.  But this does not mean I should do for them what they ought to do for themselves.  I have no right to deprive anyone else of the challenge to meet his own responsibility.  Although mutual dependence is one of the comforts and rewards of marriage, each partner must do his own job, carry his own share of the burden.  If he fails in his duties, my assuming them will only weaken his will to accept his share of the responsibility.

How can I best help the people in my life?  By not interfering when he gets into difficulties.  I must detach myself from his shortcomings, neither making up for them nor criticizing them.  Let me learn to play my own role, and leave his to him.  If he fails in it, the failure is not mine, no mater what others may think or say about it.

“For though we are made especially for the sake of one another,

still each of us has his own tasks.  Otherwise another’s faults

would harm me, which God has not willed, in order that my

happiness may not depend on another.

Things We Cannot Solve, We Just Have To Survive......

Some frustrations we must endure without really solving the problem. Some things that ought to be put in order are not put in order because we cannot control them. Things we cannot solve, we must survive.

If you resent someone for something he has done—or failed to do—forget it.

Too often the things we carry are petty, even stupid. If you are still upset after all these years because Aunt Clara didn’t come to your wedding reception, why don’t you grow up and forget it?

If you brood constantly over a loss or a past mistake, look ahead—settle it.

We call that forgiveness. Forgiveness is powerful spiritual medicine. To extend forgiveness, that soothing balm, to those who have offended you is to heal. And, more difficult yet, when the need is there, forgive yourself!

I repeat, “John, leave it alone. Mary, leave it alone.”

Purge and cleanse and soothe your soul and your heart and your mind and that of others.

A cloud will then be lifted, a beam cast from your eye. There will come that peace which surpasseth understanding.

The Lord said, “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid” (John 14:27).

Balm of Gilead, Elder Boyd K. Packer, Ensign, Nov., 1987