Sunday, June 24, 2018

“Know Thyself” One Day at a Time in Alanon..........

“Know Thyself”
One Day at a Time in Alanon
June 18

The Greek philosopher Socrates said:  “Know thyself.” We are to see ourselves as we really are-our characters, motives, attitudes and actions.

A deeply rooted habit of self-justification may tempt me to explain away each fault as I uncover it.  Will I blame others for what I do on the ground that I am compelled to react to their wrongdoing?

It has been said that even a trained psychiatrist cannot analyze himself because of such blocks.  This will challenge me to prove that personal honesty and humility can achieve what superior knowledge often cannot.

Today’s Reminder

“Perfection is a long way off, but improvement can be made to happen every day.”

Thursday, May 24, 2018


In moments of intense struggle, sometimes I look up and cry out, “God, I don’t know. I don’t know how my life is going to work out. But you do. Help me keep going. Help me have patience until I can understand.”
I have realized that God will not deny any of us the opportunity to have a personal experience with Jesus Christ. Life gets real. But the Atonement is real too. In crucibles of doubt and uncertainty, we have the opportunity to seek the Savior the most earnestly, the most sincerely, and come to know on a profound level how the Atonement applies to us personally. When we come unto Christ, He will come to us.
In Isaiah 49:23, God is speaking to His covenant people about the time when His promises will be fulfilled. The Lord tells them, “And thou shalt know that I am the Lord: for they shall not be ashamed that wait for me.”
In times of ambiguity and uncertainty, I will keep my covenants and wait for Him. He will come. His promises will be fulfilled. I will see Him and know Him “even as also I am known” (1 Corinthians 13:12). And I will not be ashamed that I waited for Him.

Saturday, May 5, 2018

cowboy lessons

n her fine book called Adversity, Elaine Cannon shares this valuable example:
An old cowboy said he had learned life's most important lessons from Hereford cows. All his life he had worked cattle ranches where winter storms took a heavy toll among the herds. Freezing rains whipped across the prairies. Howling, bitter winds piled snow into enormous drifts. Temperatures might drop quickly to below zero degrees. Flying ice cut into the flesh. In this maelstrom of nature's violence most cattle would turn their backs to the ice blasts and slowly drift downwind, mile upon mile. Finally, intercepted by a boundary fence, they would pile up against the barrier and die by the scores.
But the Herefords acted differently. Cattle of this breed would instinctively head into the windward end of the range. There they would stand shoulder-to-shoulder facing the storm's blast, heads down against its onslaught.
"You always found the Herefords alive and well," said the cowboy. "I guess it's the greatest lesson I ever learned on the prairies--just face life's storms." [Elaine Cannon, Adversity (Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1987), pp. 133¬34]
A person who understands that life is schooling is more likely to benefit from adversity than one who expects only happiness in life. [Cannon, Adversity, p. 46]
Dallin H. Oaks,  Brigham Young University on 17 January 1995.

Wednesday, October 25, 2017

The Cycle of your family

This has helped us. Perhaps it will help you.-Allen and Linda

I come from a family in which the last three generations on my father’s side have created a heartbreaking trail of damaged families and lives. Looking at the situation honestly has imbued me with a determination not to repeat the cycle of destruction I grew up with. I have found two principles to be particularly helpful:
First, set appropriate boundaries between yourself and family members who are still caught in the cycle. You can love and forgive and at the same time choose not to associate with those whose actions are incompatible with breaking the cycle.
Second, be patient with yourself. We are each given talents and gifts in this life. We are also given unique challenges to overcome. Heavenly Father knows my challenges. When I turn to Him, He helps me see that I am not a bad parent because I struggle with the same behaviors that my parents and other family members display. He loves me for fighting against those behaviors. Unlike the adversary, who teaches me that my family’s dysfunction both defines and eternally limits me, my loving Heavenly Father reveals to me the beautiful miracle of a life emerging from the ashes of sin.

From Questions and Answers, Ensign, June, 2012

Forgiving and forgiveness

“The special secret of true forgiveness-anger resolution.  Here it is:  For you to forgive another person, it is not required that he ask for your forgiveness….
“For you to forgive another person, it is not required that he deserves your forgiveness….
“For you to forgive another person, it is not even required that he is aware he has been forgiven.
“What I am saying,” she interrupted, “is there is not a shred of evidence from experts or books-including the Bible-that demands a person ask for, deserve, or be cognizant of the process before you can forgive him. Forgiveness, it turns out, is a gift that means more to the giver than it does to the receiver.”
“Incidentally,” she said, “ it is important that we forgive ourselves….
“The answer for you and me is the same as it is when we deal with someone else who has offended us…forgive the offender and move on.”
“We don’t manage our anger, we resolve it.”

Island of Saints, Andy Andrews, Nelson Books, 2005, p 237

Friday, October 6, 2017

What do we want Most Donald Hilton

What do I want most?

When I was a neurosurgery resident, a professor would give us algorithms to remember important information in what he called his “rules of three.”  He called this “cerebral software.”  And it is through writing spiritual software into our brains that we program protective and healing principles which lift and liberate.  In beginning the programming process, three questions are essential.  What do you want?  What are you willing to do?  How far are you willing to go?  On a spiritual plane, these questions evoke the saving and exalting principle of consecration.  Elder Neal A. Maxwell said, “Consecration is both a principle and a promise, and it is not tied to a single moment.  Instead, it is freely given, drop by drop, until the cup of consecration brims and finally runs over.” (October Conference, 1995)  Recovery is a process which occurs over time.  Relapses are not uncommon in early stages of recovery, but as the person learns to avoid previous pitfalls and looks to the Savior, relapses will stop and full healing will occur.  Those who heal completely from addiction will do so only through consecrating their all to the Savior and allowing the Atonement to do what they can’t do alone.  As Elder Bruce C. Hafen said, “We can have eternal life, but only if there’s nothing else we want more.”(April Conference, 2004)


Sunday, September 3, 2017

How we know when are forgiven....

Some people are harder on themselves than the Lord is. Of course, we must repent to be eligible for the cleansing and forgiving powers of the Atonement, but once we have repented, there is no such thing as a spotted repenter in God’s kingdom.

There is no black mark on our right ankle that says “2008 sin” or brown stain behind our left ear that says “2010 trespass.” The Lord declared the comprehensive cleansing power of the Atonement when He said, “Though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow” (Isaiah 1:18). That is the miracle of the Atonement of Jesus Christ.

On some occasions I believe our sins are cleansed before the guilt goes away. Why is that? Perhaps in God’s mercy, the memory of that guilt is a warning, a spiritual “stop sign” that cries out when similar temptations confront us: “Don’t go down that road. You know the pain it can bring.” Perhaps for those in the process of repenting, it is meant to be a protection, not a punishment.

How Do I Know When I Am Forgiven? By Elder Tad R. Callister Of the Presidency of the Seventy,  Liahona Aug. 2012 ¬