“Detaching from the addict (bad behavior of another person) is extremely difficult to do, especially if he or she has just embarrassed you, hurt you, or stolen from you. But keep in mind that what is most important to your salvation is what you do regardless of the addict’s behavior. Codependents can measure the level of their recovery by discovering their ability to act and to feel according to their relationship with God, whatever the addict’s behavior. Achieving some level of detachment allows the codependent to add the additional ingredients to an effective strategy.
Hold on to Hope, p 124