“…loving God must be first. He empowers us to change. He tells us how to change. And, most of all, God becomes the one that keeps us from being ultimately in charge. If we try to be in charge, we will do it our way, and then our own limitations become the limitations of the relationship as well. We all need someone bigger to answer to so we will make the changes we need to make.
Love God first, with all of your heart, mind, soul, and strength. Lose your life to Him, and you will gain it.”
Boundaries in Marriage, Cloud and Townsend, p 118