One Day at a Time
“What if….” How often we hear these words from those who live with an addicts problems. Only two little words, but they’re heavy with dread, fear and anxiety.
“What if he doesn’t come home?”—What if she doesn’t take care of the children while I’m at work?”---What if he spends all his pay on drugs?”
What if he is living on the street?”---What if he goes to jail?”---What if…anything our desperate imaginings can project.
Granted, these things can happen, but when they don’t, we have put ourselves through needless suffering and made ourselves even less prepared to deal with them if they should come.
In ARP, the answer to “What if… is “Don’t project! Don’t imagine the worst; deal with your problems as they arise. Live one day at a time.” I cannot do anything about things that haven’t happened; I will not let past experiences make me dread the unknown future.
“It is a vain and unprofitable thing to conceive either grief or joy for future things
which perhaps will never come about.”