“Forgive vs. Forget. Forgiving the addict and yourself does not mean that the codependent will forget. In most cases there are many horrible memories of what the addict has done to you and what you have done to the addict in the privacy of your home. The chances of these memories quickly disappearing are not likely. Simply said, amnesia is not part of recovery. For example, adult children of alcoholics who were abused earlier in their lives have worked through the pain, and forgiven their parent, still have memories. Do not measure the healing process by how much you forget, but how much you can forgive. The healing codependent will remember the events, but having forgiven the addict and themselves, will have less emotional pain than if they had not forgiven.”
(Hold On To Hope. P. 90.)
Divine Love Is Also Conditional
“While divine love can be called perfect, infinite, enduring, and universal, it cannot correctly be characterized as unconditional. The word does not appear in the scriptures. On the other hand, many verses affirm that the higher levels of love the Father and the Son feel for each of us—and certain divine blessings stemming from that love—are conditional.
Why is divine love conditional? Because God loves us and wants us to be happy. “Happiness is the object and design of our existence; and will be the end thereof, if we pursue the path that leads to it; and this path is virtue, uprightness, faithfulness, holiness, and keeping all the commandments of God.”
Russell M. Nelson, “Divine Love,” Ensign, Feb 2003, 20